a fifo wife {fifo life: real life fifo family: The Moral Dilemma of a DIDO Wife}

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I live in a small coastal town in Northern NSW. An area fiercely opposed to coal seam gas with strong campaigns such as the “lock the gate” signs you see dotted all through the hinterland here and the topic always hot on people’s lips – and I’m a DIDO wife.

In my local supermarket the other day I bumped into my favourite local 60-something year old, long haired, woodstockish couple that live just down the road, the ones who man the anti-coal seam gas stall at the local markets and write weekly into the local rag to wax lyrical on all topics political – “Hey Emma, How’ve you been? We haven’t seen Jarrod around much lately” to which I reply – “we’re great! He’s been working away…” “oh, what is he doing?” – there’s an uncomfortable pause where I dither over what to say – I’m not going to lie, but then I find myself replying with excuses – “you know, he was struggling to find work, and a friend got him into the mines, it’s only a short term thing….” blah blah” and there it is – the moral dilemma of being connected to something that you don’t necessarily agree with.

I’m not an activist nor a campaigner but I do like to consider myself somewhat green, and truth be told, gas mining on some huge cattle station in the back of Queensland in the middle of nowhere I can get on with, but do I want it happening in my own backyard? The answer is no. We moved to this area from the hustle and bustle of Sydney 10 years ago and it is literally paradise, but the downfall has always been the lack of job opportunities. Which is fine when you are young and free and play the “we don’t care about money, its all about lifestyle” game, but then you start a family, and the game changes. All of a sudden you start thinking about good schools, and uniforms, and family holidays, and what if they get sick? That’s right, you start thinking about “THE FUTURE”, that scarily oppressive term we used think was not for us, the “yeah, we live in the moment man!” is no longer, and I actually like it! I’ve started dreaming about a little house, with a dog, on a pretty block of land with a fig tree…right in the heart of the “lock the gate” campaign area…

And so for us being able to support a family and bring them up in paradise trumps our green leanings but doesn’t leave me feeling any less guilty at the moral contradiction – I will probably sign the petition to keep coal seam gas out of the Northern Rivers but kiss my husband goodbye next week with a “bring home the Benjamin’s, baby!”.

Written by Emma McLaughlin

21st June, 2013

 Emma McLaughlin is a DIDO wife, mother of a one year old, student and blog host at

www.chamomileandpeppermint.blogspot.com.au

 

a fifo wife {fifo life: happy marriage tip seven: to diffuse or be a pursuer}

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Was I dick tonight he said to me. Hmm I pondered how I was going to answer that question. We were at the country show. It was late. I was tired. He was tired. The kids were tired, I was hungry and I had just hurt myself on one of the show’s rides called the Extreme..note to the showies a little padding on those metal bars wouldn’t go astray. What I had to say if I was to answer that question probably wasn’t going to be nice. I pondered the importance of saying what I would like to say.

Clearly he knew he had been a dick was there any point in going on with it? Any point in saying why yes you were sort of a unnecessary kill joy tonight; all at the risk of him get his back up and an argument insuing? Which would result in me missing out on getting something to eat, unimportant things said and an argument which would leave me even more tired and cranky. Then to cap it off a horrible ride home. No I decided having an arguement over he being a dick or why he had behaved like one which I guess somewhere along the way was possibly going to be my fault wasn’t important enough and answering his question or pursuing it further wasn’t important enough to miss out on dinner even if that something to dinner was Mc Donald’s.

So instead I looked at him smiled held his hand and said can we go get something to eat I’m hungry. He looked at me knowingly.

Diffused. Sigh.

The ride home was silent but that was because he was in deep thought, the kids tired and me; I was enjoying the silence.

As a result of this diffusive action on my part paid off- gosh that makes me sound clever and spy like. The next day I was given asleep in, a bacon sandwich and two bunches of flowers none of which would have had happened if had I said why yes you were a dick to his trick question the night before.

So marriage tip number seven (and you can read more of my marriage tips none of which have the backing of a university degree but of life hereherehere and here)  is work out whether is it worth the argument. Is it that important. Will it really make a difference? What’s more important being right, telling them some thing they already know, giving your two bobs worth to something that won’t make a difference really or filling your belly? Sometimes not all the time filling your belly is the better option.

What do you think my sweets? Are you a diffuser? or a pursuer ? 

 xx Deb 

a fifo wife {fifo life: a few things}

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Its Monday my sweets..thank goodness and despite being a funny week it’s been nice all the same being with the kids, husband and folks. the funny or nots so funny  is the household is so far out of wack. I think we all miss a little routine but school is back today so we should be on track fairly soon.

Anyway here are this weeks’ few things..

1. Why is the show so expensive? Why? It’s meant to be a family event so why wouldn’t you make it family affordable? However thank you to the ticket lady of the giant blizzard slide who extended the time from 5 minutes to 15 minutes because she thought a $1.00 and minute was a rip off also.

2.Today was the first day back at school…I have never been so happy to make school lunches in a long time.

3. I just did an hour long work out and I’m now eating a slice of baked New York cheesecake and cream…I’m currently thinking…What.Was.The.Point… Oh I know I was cleaning out the fridge its bin night it would be a waste to throw it away..

4. My B2 turns 6 this week…my parents drive home…crap…growing up and going away never gets any easier for me…

5. I love scary movies, love them and I know this is old “so like” 2009 but I have never seen any of the Paranormal Activity movies…I want too but am too frightened to because of this…I would be a rolling around crying in the fetal positioned and that would before the movie started..

6. Avril Lavigne got married this past weekend..in a black wedding dress.. Personally I like it. It was her second wedding..I think we can all guess she isn’t a virgin and it’s her day..and she will be able to wear it again? the black flowers I kind like them too. What do you think?

7. Miley, Miley, Miley..I think you have gone just a little too far. That video is not sexy that’s just b grade porn gone wrong..I couldn’t even watch it all..what do you think?

8. How’s this for public name calling?

9. Only in the territory..

10. And how’s this for some good news for the earth . A 16 year old kid has developed plastic from the skin of a banana..read more here. Lets hope the major petroleum companies don’t get hold of her first..

So sweets have a great week..Im off to bake a cake because we dont seem to have any more left for the kids afternoon tea..hmmm

xx Deb

 

a fifo wife {fifo life: how to: photograph newborn’s}

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When I first had B1 it was just me and him at home. Husband was at work on his first offshore gig and I was so worried that he was missing stuff that I took images every day. Most of the time it was just candid shots; my all time favourite way to photograph, there was lots of sleeping shots, eating close ups and feeding. B1 was by far my most documented baby but isn’t that always the way?

Like most I wanted some more professional looking shots but we couldn’t afford a photographer at the time but if you can I highly recommend you do as well as doing your own. You don’t need a fancy digital camera at that time I had a point and shoot camera so nothing was technical about my shots but I got some really beautiful images that I will keep forever. I also edited them with pic-monkey. Now I use my iphone and have a love affair with After light a cheap little phone app.

Don’t let not having the right equipment stop you. Its all about how you use what you have..

1. Photograph a newborn if you can if you think about it in the midst of the four day baby blues, milk let down, being in love or trying to find it and the added reality that your whole world has changed in the first 10 days of life as that’s when they are the most easy to shoot if you cant don’t stress. This is fun stay calm and relaxed. The only reason is babies are still really flexible at this age – not that you want to contort them but you can tuck their little legs up and move them easily about with out hurting them.

2. Keep them warm until you have your props ready if you are using any. Remember babies cant control their body temperature so make sure the room is warm or you have a blanket on hand.

3. Photograph using different textured fabrics. Use what you have don’t buy extra material unless you want to. I got some great shots by surrounding my babies in a woollen blanket and I loved the folded details of a crisp sheet. I like the look of natural fabrics best but each to their own. Don’t be afraid to dress them up if you would like. Add a head, band beanie or pop them in a costume if you want to.

4. Use some props don’t go out and buying anything unless you want to. Use what you have at hand a large clothes basket, a ottoman, vintage suitcases but be sensible and use your common sense – don’t be silly in your choice  and don’t put your baby ever in harms way for a picture. My favourite was on our bed. I took a lot images of all three boys on our master bed. I loved them in just cloth nappies crawling around playing on a unmade clean bed. Go to pinterest for some inspiration.

5. Turn off the flash. Work in natural light. Open up the window dressings or go by a window or go under a shady tree. I used to photograph a lot on my verandah but if you have a warm overcast day go outside and under a shady tree. If you go outside don’t forget to slip, slop, slap.

6. Get naked if the weather or the temperature in the room permits. Hide the babies private parts by laying them on their belly, covering them up with some fabric or use angles to help hide their little bits. Lets be honest their bottoms will never be that cute again but have lots of baby wipes on hand..unless of course your a parent who are able to toilet train their newborn..sigh.

7. Get up close. Their feet, hands, ears wont be that small for ever in fact they will be bigger tomorrow.

8. Photograph in some in black and white. Black and white is timeless.

9. Use different angles. Stand above them with a chair or step ladder and get down to eye level.

10. Candid shots are as I said my favourite the best. Feeding, changing, sleeping, being in their cots, hugging with siblings and dad. The everyday moments. The best images ever.

Things I didn’t do was take pictures of the boys nursery and the toys that have gone on to be essentials in their lives. What I also didn’t do was print the images regularly so my extra advice make that part of your shopping trip each week. Its only a few cents at Big W then pop them in an album or scrapbook if your able to cut things in a straight line after having a newborn. I’m only just doing it now..when I’m less tired, more focused and able to cut in a straight line.

It should also be added I’m not a photographer obviously I have only just got the art of stringing a sentence together so I cant offer technical advice I just had fun and it was such a nice way to get to know my baby.

What tips do you have for taking images of newborn’s? Did you do any? 

xxDeb

 

 

a fifo wife {fifo life: cook’s basics: Buttercream frosting or icing depending on where your from}

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I just learnt how to make Butter Cream Frosting..be warned however it melts quick well it did in my kitchen..just means you need to keep in the fridge and you need to eat it a little quicker.

Butter Cream Frosting

What you will need:

2 1/2 cups icing sugar

1/4 cup unsalted butter soft

1/4 cup cream

1 tsp vanilla or other flavouring.

a few drops of colouring if you need.

How to:

Sift the icing sugar into a bowl and put aside.

In another bowl cream the butter until its soft. Gradually stir in a few spoonfuls of icing sugar. Mix in the cream. Stir in the remaining icing sugar.

Add the flavouring and colouring if using.

Add more icing sugar if your need to thicken or cream to thin.

Add to cake or cup cakes.

Enjoy.