the fifo wife

The last couple of days we went to the city for the night just me and the boys to break the holidays up. Our first  stop was for lunch and we went to one of those sports clubs. The type that are like cruise ships. Its like walking into another world. One that has no clocks, lots of flashing lights and that soft lulling music playing that has old people dancing during the day; something that seems strange during the day. It also has one of those kids area with a 12 am curfew that’s filled with everything a kids needs to playground and a couple of TV’s and a wii. A babysitter just like that. Mix that with cheap drinks and meals and its some idea of heaven.

This time was a our second time and it was packed to the brim with an unusual mix of older people, mothers and kids.

Turns out that Wednesday was (is) cheap buffet lunch. $8.00 will see you get a massive meal. Massive.

So combine a cheap meal that will keep a pensioner going all week and the school holidays and that’s a lot of people young and old in the one place.

The boys head straight into the glass cube where despite the sign on the door saying maximum 30 kids people like me trooped them in anyway while I ordered and attempted to find a table. That many kids in one spot has to be fun right?

Table found. Drinks got. Meals arrived I went in search of my children amongst the others in the glass cube. They found me instead.

We sat started to eat and conversation started. Mum B1 said chomping into a very over cooked piece of fish. Yeah baby. There is a lot of kids in there mum he said.

Yeah there is I said not thinking much of it. Its crazy he said people are being naughty..there are no rules mum..its crazy he said eyes wide trying to emphasises the crazy that was going on in the cube.

Yeah piped up B2 just to add his two bits worth. B3 the littlest stayed silent to him it was just fun. And I said seeing if there was any more.

We don’t really like it. Its not fun when you don’t have some rules..you know a few..they (meaning the kids) are just being naughty and silly he said looking at his brothers feeling confident he spoke for all.

Wow I said to them and that’s what I was thinking. I didn’t think he of all my children would find that admist all that chaos that there is rules for a reason; especially from a play room. Or that he wouldn’t like it. That they wouldn’t like it. I actually thought they especially my eldest would get involved in the crazy. He had always gravitated towards the cool bad boy kids.

It was at this moment I was seriously disappointed in myself that I had thought that of him of them my boys. That when it came to the crunch that they wouldn’t make the right decision. That’s no good I said so what are you doing (about it) I said. Trying to have some rules but they don’t care he said to me so we are just having our own they said.

Ah good idea I said. I was almost exploding with pride but trying to act cool at the same time so instead I said very mother like and that’s why we have some rules I said so we don’t get all crazy and everyone can enjoy things. Some rules are needed even when we want to have fun.

We left it at that. And they went back into the chaos after lunch for a play but when I was done it unusually it took no more than me to ask once for them to come.

So of course I used that line at least once over the two days..mummy has these rules of a reason.

Have your kids ever surprised you like that?

xx D

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I love useless knowledge as much as I love useless personality/amusing test’s..sigh..lame but true…and after all I have nothing else to do but find out that I don’t like to talk to large groups of people naked ..so of course when I saw these today I had to share..but I warn you if you think your all that and want to be brought down a notch or two head on over..the tests are a bit ‘lengthy’ meaning they will take more than a minute..which meant even I got a little pffft..but I continued because I need to be told I have some work to do and sign up here ..tip don’t sign up to anything unless you want to and you know what exactly you are signing up for.

So useless tests.

I always thought I could read peoples emotions pretty well..after all I can read my husband well enough when he is about to explode..I have seen it just twice because he is that cool calm and collective..his voice goes quiet but louder..he goes all straight..and the tipper that your whole world is set to go south is his eyes go black. Black. They go from a lovers brown to black.

So want to give your emotion reading a go head here

I also thought knew a word or two and even though I don’t always use them right or spell them correctly (and my grammar yes is terrible) I did think I was doing okay.Which is why my husband always looks at me in delight when he uses a new word however it appears I do only it seems know a word or two. Take the test here.

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I took the boys off to see a old exstinct volcano yesterday. It was the perfect get out of the house break up the holiday cabin fever; especially for me. It was thirty minutes from home, the track a perfect kilometre long and the kids even learnt a couple of things along the way. I also found myself telling them stuff I knew and I loved how I had there attention even if it was for just a moment.

That one moment of attentive listening was awesome..then a bird moved..and it was gone. Like that.

There is just something about the prehistoric that kids love boys or girls. The kids were fossil hunting, crystal hunting and dinosaur sighting. It was awesome. My now big boy B1 was filming and documenting all the way for his best friend Mr L who he wished was able to come.

Me; was just on leech and Cassawory patrol.

The afternoon was perfect.

Check your local National Park website to see what’s close to hand for you.

xx Deb

Its the second week of January. Fourth week of school holidays and I am trying not to wish the time by but right now its kind of what I am doing so the plans that were made last Friday are being put into action. Today we are getting of the house today and making the most of these supposed care free days together. Today we are road tripping to an instinct volcano just a up the road and then we will head to a local caf’e for some afternoon tea.

However.

Its a perfect day for being indoors really though raining and cool it should be book and Tv weather instead we are going to tramp through the rain forest and more than likely get covered in ticks and leeches but Iam sure it will be fun. Fun. I am sure.

Regardless here are the few things apart from getting some deet for the ticks these are the things running through my head today.

1. I can offically add Tv repair person to my CV. We found a plasma at the dump..it worked and then stopped working..husband looked it up on you tube..I watched it ordered the part and viola. We have a still with stickers on it 50 inch plasma TV for $25.00. Thank you very much.

2. Over the weekend the boys told me I needed to get some weight loss milk shakes..when I told them it was to loose weight they said you should really get them mum..hint has been taken..thank you boys for thinking of me..

3. So on hearing that I considered the cabbage soup diet..the body trim..and even looked every the meal replacement thing at Woolies and whilst I get that they have a place for others I decied they aren’t for me..my life is not a diet..I don’t have the will power and my life hasn’t been (a diet) since I realised food was good for you..but never fear boys I am doing something about it..being able to wrestle you is among my top priorities..

4. Should I start a page for the blokes?

5. They promise it will change the look of your face..as the year I was going to accept myself better of course I linked on it.

6. Its a slow day..so here is how to charge your i-phone battery faster…which is a good thing right?

7. I have to share my dear friend Melissa’s Photography Business..she is a true talent…who is a non stop support of my other love Forrest Found. Her images will put a smile on your dial even on a school holiday Monday.

8. Grant Hackett is dating a 20 year old which is cool I suppose but I always feel like a dirty old woman when I realise the fine figure I have been admiring turns out to be a young 20’ish possibly younger something whipper snapper..anyone else feel that way?

9. Have come to love this chick.

10. For the Bradley Cooper fans.

Have a great day sweets.

xx Deb

Every Sunday over on our Facebook page we run a Support Sunday forum. Here our friends write in with questions that they need help with. These questions range from help with babies, work, FIFO and relationships. All questions are posted anonymously by me and always always get an amazing reaction. Always.

So this weekend we had this question  posted through and I was asked to a post it straight away as she was desperate for some support and whilst we have had a great response on face book and always do I thought about those here and  how we are missing out on so much life experience here. So depending on how this goes perhaps I could make this a regular contribution here and on face book..what do you think? Just one question? And if you have a question you would like posted here (and I moderate all answers..including on face book)  I will do so all anonymously; as written.

So here goes..

My husbands been doing FIFO for the past 12 years!!! It has taken a huge toll on our relationship…we have been together this whole time and married for 5 years..we have 2 small children 5 and 1…he has now told me he wants a divorce…I just feel really ripped off everything I have gone through for the past 12 years with him working away and now with 2 small children…he won’t compromise on anything, he won’t try and fix anything.. I have suggested counselling, he won’t go…I just feel like he has become so selfish and is not in reality cause he just comes home and then he goes again all the time… Any advice would be appreciated.

So leave your advice in the comments..you never know your piece experience in life might just be what they need to hear..

xx Deb