Teaching your kids kindness. How do you teach it? I don’t know buts it what I want my boys to be kind, considerate, gentle, thoughtful and beautiful. I want them to be all these things and I have often wondered how do I do it. Do I need to join a organisation? Start doing charity work? Being a better person to my fellow man? I don’t know. Its something I have wondered because its a trait that I want to instill in my boys; in a world that is so hard a little kindness and consideration will go along way. I know I think too much but I this fear I have one chance with the boys to do it right. I don’t want to stuff them up. So raising good boys is something that plays on my mind.
Last night I spent most of it with my head in a bucket. I picked up the boys vomiting bug and I took myself to bed at 4pm.
My boys 7,5 and 3 got themselves a breakfast dinner, they bathed themselves, they stayed quiet and then when I told them it was bed they went to bed or into my bed so they could ‘keep an eye on me’.
At 7pm my vomiting started. My big boy got me a bucket. My middle baby my got me a towel. My little boy well he just yelled mummy its coming out your nose. After I finished lets say purging my soul. I sat. Are you okay mum? Yep just give me a minute I said. They did and then without being asked they then set about cleaning me up. They wiped my face and rubbed my back. They got me a drink of water.
They showed me kindness. They were considerate. Thoughtful. They were last night all those things I want them to be. Without being instructed.
Without actively seeking teaching them kindness, consideration, and thoughtfulness we have by just being that way to each other.
Kids learn from us via our actions and our words so how we are to each other, how we speak with each other is the biggest teacher we can give them.