Do you remember when you were a teenager? Or with your now partner or husband on your first date or with someone you had just met and you really liked. Do you remember how you were when you just hung out. Getting to know each other, this person who made your heart stop just a little. Talking. Sitting away from each other but still together. Still touching each other with your toes or your finger tips. Wanting to know about them? What made them tick. Do you remember how beautiful and exciting that was? How wonderful it made you feel?
Now husband and I have been going to the lake a lot this past month and its something I have noticed that happens with teenagers. The chemistry between them is electric you can feel it, you can see it. Now I’m not sitting like David Attenborough in a bird hide watching them that would be awkward and a little odd but it doesn’t matter whether they are on a lilo, swimming, sitting or walking you can tell the ones that like each other. You can feel it.
Now sure at one point they are going to be all over each other but this slowness this thoughtfulness is a like the start of a slow burn or flash in the pan which ever it may be but the start is exciting and beautiful non the less. Every movement between them is deliberate and its slow. Without getting all sappy its a dance a slow dance. Their conversation is slow, they linger on each others words. They ask each other questions. They are truly enjoying each others company. The outside noise it isn’t there. Its just them. They are listening to each other, really listening. They are sitting apart but together fingers touching slightly, hand on a knee or their feet slowly tapping together. He will brush her hair she will do the same to him still apart and still its slow. They will periodically look each other in the eye when they talk and when they aren’t looking each other in the eye they are smiling, you can see it and you can tell without looking. Their breathing is slow too and I’m sure when they eventually lean in slowly for that kiss that will be slow too until that slowness gains pace and well we all know what happens then.
So husband and I have date tonight and well we are going to take it slow.