I wrote a post yesterday how we were on a the count down until husband came home from a five week swing but how I had to ‘suck’ it up and find the strength to keep going for the last two but I should have mentioned just how I manage to ‘suck it up’ and keep going..whats next.
Yet if you find you cant find the strength no matter what and I know how that is I have been there and done that too please see a professional or seek the advice of someone you trust.
Husband and I have always have had this mantra life is a result of the decisions you make and how you react to them. As we say suck it up baby..so when Im feeling overwhelmed by our decision to live this lifestyle its usually because I have put too much pressure on myself by making bad decisions on how to run the month and also failed to listen to my body. I will usually have a melt down after a week of broken sleep its my number one problem and unlike most people I cant sleep during the day. I try try being the optimum word to meditate for few minutes a day whilst my youngest is having his day nap but failing that this is my method for coping with a potential melt down of feeling overwhelmed.
Should a ‘melt down’ have occured and after my intial sobbing and tantrum has subsided I send the kids outside and make a coffee giving myself some time out to take stock.
I ask myself whats next. Whats important to get done. Is it the washing piling up or the toys everywhere that’s the problem? Is the lawn really important or is it getting to the doctors appointment on time?
I take into consideration that I’m so lucky that my husband will be home in a few short days or weeks. I remind myself that some very courageous women aren’t so lucky there husbands aren’t coming home and my situation is nothing to there’s. I also remind myself that the job I do is hard and I’m doing a damn good job all on my own..we all do.
After I have done all that and taken a great big deep breath I will apologies to my boys and they as always say to me “its okay mummy its okay’ and you know what it really is.
