I was scrolling through facebook yesterday when I came across a thank you from a self-help guru. He was thanking his wife and children for supporting him for none of his dreams would be coming true without them. He thanked his wife for the looking after him and his children while he was gone. That he was doing this all for them so the could have the legacy his parents did not. He continued that without them he is nothing and coming home to them was the best thing in the world.
Now having followed this man for a while and his postings from various aircraft arm chairs in India, Melbourne, London and Dubai he has been either away a long time or often. Which I’m not sure. So it was interesting that whilst not surprising the comments left were awesome, so glad you have made it, well done. The congratulations of this man’s achievements was whilst well deserved it took all my might not to comment: now if FIFO husband had said that the comments would be different. I know they would be and yet the two dreams they are living are exactly the same. The dreams of creating a better life for his family exactly the same but the environment in which he is working to get them altogether different.
In my fifteen years with the exception of my family, I don’t think I have ever been told that my husband being ‘away’ from his family to earn a better income to create a better life is awesome. That pursuing the dream to leave a legacy is honourable, or that the dedication to pursue any of our dreams has resulted in congratulations.
Instead, I have had heard that we are all about the money. That my family and marriage are not real, that we are clueless and selfish. Yes, I do believe I have had them all including the most recent windfall comment and yet him chasing his dreams and the self-help guru chasing his dreams are exactly the same.
So why do we get perceived different? Is it because what we do is attainable to everyone and we are the ones that chose to take the path that is hardest to work and are rewarded the earliest and so its tall poppy? Or is it because there are those that go off course that get lost in the money and forget their plan and so become the beacon of what this is not about. Do we forget to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions? Or is it perhaps it seems that we are a bunch of bogans not working towards something? That we are bumbling fools without a plan. Perhaps?
Yet this is what I know – what you know. We are anything but a bunch of aimless bogans. We are go-getters, achievers, intelligent men and women and entrepreneurs. We work hard for our families and understand the concept of what’s precious and what is not But incase you have veered from the plan be it for what ever reason personal, family, marriage to gain health build wealth or ‘find happiness’ here a few tips to help you get back on track because everyone even a self-help guru needs a plan.
What is your ultimate goal? What do you want from life? Be it FIFO or not. For us, it’s the choice of retirement in our 40’s but for now its about the RNR. We worked hard to find work that paid well and had an equal time roster. For a friend of ours its so he can not only have a house but pays his child maintenance; sad but true.
Write your goals down, put the on a board, Pinterest, share them on an iPad via Evernote, so your partners at home or work can see them. So your goals are at the forefront of your mind so on a bad day when its all to hard you can see it that nothing in life comes easy, but it will eventually come.
How long are you doing it? What is your timeline to achieve the goal ? If you need break it down into smaller steps do so. If your only going to FIFO for as long as you have paid off your house or created a decent hole in the mortgage then do it until then. Don’t pay off the house then say I will just work three months for a pool. You will never leave FIFO you will never reach your goal of paying the mortgage to be with your family. Don’t be deterred by extra toys you don’t need a quad bike to be part of the dream if you never go camping.
Who are your support people? Who will help you get there? Find your group the ones that will help you when you and your family need it most. Personally this might be your neighbours, friends and often its not your family. Know who you can count on but then through the course of pursuing your dreams you will find out who they are anyway. Outsource if you need it. If you need a trainer to lose 10 kilos or
Outsource support and advice if you need it. If you need a trainer to lose 10 kilos or finacle planner to help you manage the money and show you the best way to get your goal done do it but always know where and what your money is doing. None one can do it on their own. Richard Branson, Donald Trump Seth Gooden never made it on their own they all had the support of someone else.
None one can do it on their own. Richard Branson, Donald Trump Seth Gooden never made it on their own they all had the support of someone else.
And reassess and always communicate with your partner and with your children. Remembering what the goal is what you want and the way you are achieving. Ensuring it is the right way for your family. What’s working and what’s not. Remembering no one has it better or worse in the completing of a dream. You are in this together a team and if you’re not you’re in trouble, and you need to fix it fast. Your family is part of the plan they are the plan and loosing them as part goal isn’t the plan nor the goal.
xDeb
