a fifo wife {fifo life: relationships: five steps to ruining your relationships with everyone}

This month for husband and I has been hard. There was no honeymoon this month. It was just hard slog. I was working long hours and up until the few past days, I was hardly seeing the kids. Hardly seeing him, and when I did see them I was so tired that any little snigger, sneeze or whinge I leapt on it. And husband did what husband did best he followed through.

In fact, I think in the past three months we have spent two weeks together I know not as long as some but even those two weeks if I’m honest were not invested.

Because I was reminded I love to work. So being stubborn finding that feeling of me I kept going because she will be right; right? No it does not.

So this month after screaming f*ck you more than once along with I’m leaving {and it wasn’t for coffee} it dawned on me what was happening where we were going and what needed to be done.

So along with doing what needs to be done I reckon I have learnt truly learnt what kills a partnership, or a relationship be it with your husband or your kids. Or at least sets it on a mighty good course for doomsville.

And it’s so easy to get onto the path of because I never thought it would be me that started it all. And I am taking responsibility because I know when I have been an ass and will happily admit so; husband on the other hand well he is another species. So let’s just leave it there; after this is my story not his.

So here’s my five tips to quickly and easily ruining your marriage.

1. Stop taking care of yourself. Become tired run down ugly.  I like to think it’s self-explanatory. If you don’t like yourself enough to take care of yourself why should anyone else.
2. Stop talking to each other. Stop planning your future, your goals, the raising of your kids; be it two legged or four.  Stop planning your weekends. Stop laughing because you’re too tired. Instead grunting, telling them you’re going to bed, and a fake smile at that attempt to brighten your day will bring any sort of communication to a halt.
3. Stop appreciating each other. Instead fill yourself full of resentment of what they did and didn’t do for you because you were at work, or that they were carrying on like you never existed because your were at work.
4. Stop touching each other. Be it hugs, sex or holding hands with the kids cease it and watch the great divide; divide.
5. Stop investing time into your partnership or relationships. Use the excuse you’re too tired, the kids need you or you want to go to the pub and ‘relax’ saying you want to spend time with your mates rather than your family should do the trick.

Do all these or just some steps in any order and your relationships set for doomsville I can almost guarantee.

Recognise the pattern {and learn from me; perhaps} understand everything in life takes work and that nothing comes easy and watch it turn around quickly.

If you are there or almost there accept that you are human you are going to make mistakes and so have the guts to admit it and make the choice to change it.

Make the choice to turn every single one of those step around and your set for not only making out with your partner but holding hands with your kids.
xx Deb