When FIFO husband started working FIFO it really was seemed like mans industry there wasn’t a lot of women out on rigs and vessels and if there was I just assumed they were older women. He spoke about them often Mary Jane said this or did that and I asked after them. Usually there were one or two women and that was rare. I never worried they were just another workmate and I have always thought of these women as those that had seen better days or had seen too many days in the sun. Women that sometimes got mistaken for men. Get my drift? Yes I know my bad and I don’t know why- I just did.
It never worried me and it still doesn’t. I’m not the jealous type. I’m just not it’s not in my DNA. I have never worried about FIFO husband developing a relationship out on the rig or vessel but I know that it happens. He tells me about it but I have never worried about it with him because I know him and what he expects of me and what I in turn expect of him and so in 15 years I have never worried. Well I’m lying there I have never worried about it but it has crossed my mind that perhaps one day it may happen. I mean it must get lonely out there and as I said to him loneliness and dark corners can do things to a person. I know how lonely I get after all. It’s both sides of the fence.
So imagine my surprise when flicking through his camera looking at his Christmas snaps and I’m seeing pictures of pretty little blondes and brunettes. Not at all what I was expecting. Are these the office girls I asked? Nope that’s Mary Jane and Belinda. What? I asked with a slight pitch to my voice. He looked at me and smiled. Knowing what he was thinking I just casually said I always imagined that they looked different that’s all. I imagined wrinkles, grey hair, turkey jowls, not shiny flowing hair, perfect pouts and was that eye liner I spied?
Worried? He asked with a cheeky grin. He knows my opinions about ahem sex…I believe sex can be sex…yet as I get older, married longer, invested longer that opinions is slightly waning I will be honest. He doesn’t agree. He believes sex isn’t just sex. Its special which I agree with but sometimes it’s not you know? Having said that I’m monogamous through and through but I have always felt that way. When I was single and I’m emphasis single I played that way…many times. But when you enter a relationship it’s a different matter entirely.
Nope I said trying not to have nervous giggle just because they have just stepped out of vogue magazine despite being in the middle of the freaking ocean. I’m sure that they can’t offer you what I can I said with a wink. No he said they can’t. Why I thought they where anything apart from stunning young beautiful women is beyond me. It’s really put me in my place. After all this modern day not the fifties and I’m a firm believer women can and should anything and everything if they so desire. It’s alluring and as I said before sexy.
So have I started to worry? Am I the least be jealous? No. I still hold true I don’t worry but if it happens I have asked him the courtesy to tell me. We have chatted more about it especially since he is now working with a Natalie Portman look alike his celebrity crush. It’s all about open communication this FIFO thing and it’s the humiliation and deceit that’s most hurtful in situations like these. I continue to ask after these girls and he continues to tell me. I’m not jealous but I will admit though I have started to lift my game and I understand now why he ‘lifted’ his game. I’m not going back to the fifties or any of that rubbish and I don’t totter around the house in heels and French maid outfit (that would scare the kids and the neighbours) but I’m sure not lounging around in his oversized shirts any more.
Have a great Friday friends,
xxDeb
