I feel really lucky to be able to say that my husband and I are able to eat alone, together, in a restaurant that doesnt involve a drive threw speaker or kids playground without our children often. We get to go on those things called dates.
As soon as the kids were able to toilet themselves, we found other kid loving humans to babysit them once a swing. The regularity of our dates is once every two months. I think its important so we can chat about stuff without being interrupted by a five-year-old needing to know why Ben Ten’s watch is the colour green, and even more so now by a fifteen year old wanting to know if you know where his jammers are.
So, I was thinking today, as I cooked myself lunch that one of my favourite things about going out on a date with my husband was our dessert routine.
I realised today that no matter the place we eat at. Or what is on the dessert menu, we will always get two magnums from the servo on our way home. The Husband will go in and grab a plain, and an almond coated magnum. The servo is nothing romantic obviously but there is something in that ritual as we sit there enjoying the last few minutes of chatter or silence that I so love.
Rituals it seems have their place in relationships particulary in dating. A ritual of sorts promotes a relationship creates understanding and helps with conflict resolution, or so the research says. I have never thought of us, as a couple having a ‘thing’ together. Despite being together twenty-two years, but there it was- a dating ritual of our own.
So do you have a dating ritual? A favourite place? A dessert you have? I’d love to hear yours.
