To the parents of the bullied kid, to the parents of kids who struggle at school or have mental health challenges.
Can I offer some advice from someone who is, has and will continue parenting one of those kids- if not all three.
My father initially passed on this wisdom to me years ago, before we had even encountered our troubles, but the man of few words advice never left me. So whilst his words were directed at me then, let me say them to you now.
Advice from someone in the thick of it.
In times of uncertainty for them, find what your kid loves to do, and build them from that. Be it sports, lego, dinosaurs, drawing or dance. They may not go on to be a star or become wealthy from it but nurture and encourage the crap out of it anyway. Don’t dismiss it. Don’t ignore it. Grab hold of it.
My reason?
It makes them realise they are good at something when they think they are not good at anything at all. It gives them a team, even if it’s for just 40 minutes, because they don’t have one at school. And it gives them something that is theirs. Something they can look forward to, beyond the hard stuff. Something that they become known for, instead of that kid that gets picked on, is always scared, or can’t work as quickly as the teacher likes.
It creates an escape. It builds their confidence in something which will trust me, extended onto other things. Other parts of their life that might have seemed tricky before. Which then makes them happy and isn’t that what we all want in the end for them?
Besides nothing seems as scary or lonely when you have ’something’ as well as the ’someones’ to love.
Do you have any advice for those in the thick of it?
xx
Deb.
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