This past weekend the husband and I went to a rock n roll charity ball. I had wanted to do something different for our date night for ages and on reading that there was a charity ball happening in town I sent the husband in to buy tickets.
What I hadn’t planned for was that it was themed a Rock n Roll 50’s theme; commence googling the morning of for dance steps and outfits. I think however we pulled together okay and husband knows how to spin on the floor so it was follow, follow, follow from me.
Our date nights whilst always awesome because it just us not competing against others also known as the children were becoming a little routine if you know what I mean.
Date nights are so important and when talking to a friend the other day she said to me “do you really think they make a difference?”
I wanted to scream at her, yes for so many reasons, but instead, I said calmly no matter how separate your lives become and let’s face it, it happens to everyone at some point date nights help you refocus on the important stuff, like each other.
Now we like to have one at least once a month and I had been wanting to mix it up for a while because, whilst routine is good for most things sometimes its safety can do ordinary things for some relationships.
So here are a few ideas to book in for date night (or day) to shake things up just a little this year.
- Have a games night or day whatever time of day you can fit it in. Competition is sexy.
- Take a dance class. It’s seriously fun and you can show it off later.
- Take part in a trivia night. We are heading down to our local next month to take part.
- Go bowling. I always think its a bit kitschy but its seriously fun. I get all competitive despite the fact I am useless at the game.
- Take a picnic with a view. When the kids were really little we would buy a box of $5.00 chips and head to the lake. The kids would finish and race off to swim. While we laid back, watched them play and ate the leftovers. Seriously good times.
- Give some time to charity. Now we didn’t actually do this as a date and technically it was working in the high school canteen but it was good and we loved doing it together so I’m counting it as a date.
- Go op shopping I swear its the adult’s version of treasure hunting.
- Cook together. Now there is a difference between putting up a meal for the hordes and making one together for just the two of you. Where you don’t have to consider the amount of chilli or if your last child is going to whinge before or after the first mouthful. If you want to take a class and learn a new style.
- See a new band. I’m not talking a headline act but a breakout band; perhaps one at your local.
- Visit an Art gallery. This was our first date, the husband had never been to a ‘show’; and whilst I can’t say he loved it, I loved the conversations and debate that followed to it.
- Hunt out a local play performance.
- Do something active together go bike riding, rock climbing or paddling. Even better if its new for both of you or even just the one of you. Teaching is fun 😉
Good luck,
Deb
