I am a yo-yo when it comes to how I feel with my ‘body image’ and at the moment I am at all time high and have been for almost a year of ..fist pump. So when you say to yourself you don’t look bad for 38 without an argument from yourself its a big deal and something you feel pretty smug to yourself about.
I have written before about body weight issues before but after some comments my B1 made {taht he had heard from myself talk} about his little body calling his no existent stomach fat {a word that is now banned in our house} I have made some significant changes how I think of myself. And not just for me but for my boys because I am their role models and I take that shit seriously.
So with 33% percent {and I suspect a there would be a large number} not really liking the way they look, here are a couple of tips that have seen me go from grabbing skinfuls of flesh saying I freaking hate this to you aint looking half bad.
1. Stopping checking yourself in the mirror. I would do this daily and given that I sometimes shower three four times a day {sing crazy with me now} I would be trying to rip the fat off this many times. Now I look in the mirror once after I have dressed myself and its to make sure I am free of vomit and snot than to rip the ‘fat’ off my bones.
2. Buy clothes that fit you well..size is but a number and if they fit you well, you feel so much better. You won’t be tugging at the length because it’s riding up your bum, and you won’t have to lie on the bed pulling the zipper up with a fork on your jeans. Then to stand only to get that unattractive spillage across the hips and stomach. Witnessing that amount of commitment to get your ‘size 12′ ass into a size ’10’ jeans aint pretty for anyone to witness especially your children
3. Stop comparing yourself to others unless they have your life, your DNA makeup, hormones how you convert sugars, how much sleep you get, your family genetics comparing is pointless and the biggest thing is social media unless they motivate you stop following them. Social media when used incorrectly is the devil.
4. Take care of yourself if your eating well and exercising then you are doing all your body is asking of you, and so you must accept the way you are made it cant be put simple enough. I have recently cleaned my diet to an inch of its moderating life {another post}, I’m working 10 hours a day on my feet. I’m getting to the gym when I can while running my three boys around and still I’m a size 12/14 at 157cm tall. I am the epitome of a mother duck slightly rounded yet I can’t not do anymore to become Natalie Portman this is me I am the way I am and I’m finally okay about that besides everyone likes mother ducks in all their downy feathery glory.
5. Work out the difference from feeling bad to feel fat and get to the bottom of that. When you feel your ‘fattest’ and ugliest think about what else happened that day because truth is you are none of that..So did you have a bad day at work or have a fight with the husband..I am generally at my worst after I haven’t had enough sleep because I live with three crime-fighting superheroes who do their best work of a night time. I have learnt this is a trigger and so will get on to my runner or turn on some music.
Changing the way you think of yourself is hard but only you can change those voices in your head from fatty to sexy mumma.
xxDeb
What do you think can social media evil for body image?
Have you learnt to love the way you look?
Have you banned a word in your house?
