How can you talk write about these sorts of things she asked me. Well for starters I can’t talk about these ‘sorts’ of things with just anyone friends yes family no mother and father that’s awkward on far too many levels but funnily enough I can write it. Well it’s not funny it’s the beauty of anonymity because recently the beautiful folks over at ABC asked me to do a video and I had to say no. Shame prevented me. Type and write about it, spill it on to paper no worries. Talk with just anyone –no.
But in answer to her question I write/type about it because nobody else can will or wants to in a bloggers capacity anyway. So here we are.
So what are exactly these sorts of things? Sigh…Sex…the dirty little secret we all do behind closed door that nobody wants to talk about because when it comes to sex we are all still 15. But as I have discussed before sex is important for a good relationship otherwise your room mates and I don’t care what you say. And to be honest my highest rated page was this one. It gets read more times than any other page it’s also the reason why I get so much spam on how to make your husband penis bigger which I will add can only be done with surgery but as they say it’s not the size it’s what you do with it…sigh.
So a regular column is now ensued…
First up how can you make sex better than what it is? Well here are a couple of hints that I researched and diligently tried out some more with my poor ever forgiving husband. However remeber everything is only as good as you want it to be.
Make sex a game…sex should be fun…if it’s not find a way to make it fun bring out naked oiled up twister while the kids are out and the shutters are drawn. Who says sex has to be at night, in the dark or even in the bedroom. I draw the line at the kitchen bench top…food has to be prepped the people.
Being in the moment if the mood takes you whilst brushing your teeth do it then and there…if the mood takes you whilst at 9am Woollies perhaps wrangle that mood in with some hand holding ear whispering and some car fondling until you get to a spot where you can let the ‘mood’ take over and you won’t be arrested or have your mother in-law bailing you out for indecent behaviour.
Experiment with what gets you going…people change with time…massage…candles…oysters…slap and tickle…it’s fun remember and it’s a game. If you like a little fantasy divulge in that too. Your partner’s fantasy might be you taking charge and that’s got to be win-win. Go buy a new toy can’t go in store buy online and head to our cheeky treats or pop on over to my first little guide to erotica here for some great ideas.
Clear your mind of everything else but what you want to do with your partner remembering that sex is a game it’s not necessarily going to have two winners so it’s the pleasure not the orgasm that’s important. Although it’s got to be the only game where coming a draw is better than having a winner. But if you must have a winner a woman’s chances of orgasm increases greatly with 21 minutes of foreplay just saying.
Take care of yourself physically. When you’re feeling well and healthy your desire for sex increases and viola you last longer making the game even better but if you need some advice on how to help you and your partner last longer head here.
So go forth and tell me what you think…
Xx Deb
