Warning this post has links to erotica and photographic pornography all reading is at your discretion however if its not your thing please close this post and come back tomorrow.
Please ensure your children are out of the room and your partner is in (or fly solo your choice) just in case you are among the 90% that only take 2 minutes to become aroused when watching or looking at pornography or erotica as I now preferre to call it. Erotica sounds so much more classy don’t you think?
The last time I saw pornography it was when we were visiting my best friends cousin and it made me just a little prudishly uncomfortable. He and a bunch of mates were watching it together and had paused it rather than turn the television off when they realised they had a female visitor. I walked in and looked at the TV screen and the paused image of a woman mid orgasm which immediately brought to mind a couple of questions self-consciously my first was do we really look like that mid come? My second question that I immediately threw to the boys who sat sheepishly huddled on the couch like a bunch of teenagers caught with their first stash of porn. Why and really? Whilst
Why and really? Whilst it’s nothing to be embarrassed about the boys looked everywhere but me when I asked how is it that men can watch something so intimate together that’s meant to ‘turn you on’; if they aren’t into each other so to speak? I have always thought porn was a ‘toy’ to get you in the mood not just something to watch and pass the time with but you know different strokes for different folks; literally. Typically I never got an answer.
Typically I never got an answer.
Whether you watch it, read it or shop it pornography or erotica has its place in the world and it has been around since I couldn’t find out when but like it or not it always will be so why not embrace it?·Even just a little and what comes from erotica is good for you.
Even just a little and what comes from erotica is good for you.
It when used correctly (think Tiger Woods not so correctly) is helpful to any romantic relationship which in its self-has a mired of health benefits. Good sex is good for you and your relationship. Erotica is just another way to have a little fun with something that can become a little routine. According to a survey of over 77,000 people by MSNBC, 34% of couples in long-term relationships have used porn to spice up their sex life. The French love it and they know about love· In 2012, a poll of over 500 French women found that 84% had watched porn, 50% of them on their own.
And given the popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey us Australian ladies are getting into too. In 2009, Theresa Flynt, vice president of marketing for Hustler video, said that women accounted for 56% of business at her company’s video stores. We are finding our groove so to speak and with the internet we are making part of the everyday Neilsen Net ratings found that one in three Australian Porn viewers are women and they surfed the net on average for eleven hours a week with 13% of those women accessing at work..Ahem discretion ladies discretion.
So without further ado here is a little guide to erotica…
Books
This genre of books is also called “one-handed reading” I’m sure you can understand why. Gone are the days of just mills and boons publishers are now publishing countless titles Ellora’s Cave, Nexus, and Black Lace are among them. Storylines range from fantastical, some paranormal, some focused on S&M but all of them have one thing in common: lots and lots of very explicit sex. Romance publishers have now brought out specific series for erotic fiction. Look out for titles under Blaze, Avon Red Romance and for writers such as Joanna Lindsey and Emma Holly. Buy them online here, here , here or head to the shopping links below.
Web Erotica
I warn you this is pornography in a photo graphical form…children should exit the room. There are obviously lots and lots of sites but here are some of the ‘nicer’ ones..Romance Pornography., Girls love Sex too
If you don’t want to go buy the books and want to access online written erotica Sensual Scribblings is short story erotica.
For the girls is a mix of video, photography, writing and shopping. The content of the site ranges from ‘soft focus’ to ‘hard core’. Whilst their home page offers a glimpse of what’s on offer any further viewing requires a membership.
Bright Desires This site offers a new and different kind of porn – new wave, smart porn. The aim is to move beyond the old cliche’s, boundaries and negativity of standard, old-style pornography and to offer something fresh, inclusive and intelligent..
Shopping:
The Sweet Spot I went on to their site when I was researching this post and loved them. I called them up and asked them if the knew any others and instantly I loved them. A woman answered the phone and was helpful just like their website said. They started the sweetspot because they wanted a shopping experience that was about fun to be fun and classy not feel crass and dirty. They sell beautiful lingerie. , toys, books and accessories. Have a look here and see what you think
www.loverouge.com.au is an online store and has a boutique located in Sydney’s Darlinghurst offering a ranging of fantastic services. There website is beautiful as I imagine their store would be (I have not the opportunity to visit) and the services they offer are burlesque classes and pleasure parties. Who wouldn’t like to earn a little bit of the art of burlesque even just for themselves? More details here.
www.honeybirdette.com is an online and a boutique store with outlets across Australia. The website is beautiful and they offer and range of lingerie, toys, accessories and books. Or if you are in a location where there is a store then why not pop on in.
Here is to happy endings.
What’s your take on erotica? Do you have a favourite book, shop or site?
xxDeb
All research quotes from here.
