Currently husband and I are having a few cross words. He is telling me I am annoying. I am telling him he is just like his mother; by saying that I win every time. Its not saying anything I will regret but it gets my strategic point across. We don’t fight often, never in front of the kids and they never last long. Its some rules we have silently established and when they get broken there is hell to pay. We fight clean in this house or not at all. We get our frustrations out and so be it. Today is such a day. Currently he is a jack ass and I’m a silly girl he used something different but I’m trying to keep it clean.
I’m not sure what we argued over. I think it was because I yelled at him because I wasn’t able to run to his beck and call for something he was looking for because I was in the toilet doing what needs to be done in the toilet. He may or may not have cracked it because of the tone in my voice but seriously I was exasperated because I cant even go to the toilet with out the someone hunting me down to find a pair of socks; which if they had thought about it and where actually looking for it would have found where they have always been.
Its been like this for a week. Ho hum. Its part of life. Am I worried? Nope. My sister in law called over the weekend and I mentioned we were arguing. I am so sorry that you are having trouble. She said it like I had told her we were on the verge of divorce. No no I said its all good we are all good. But you two never fight she said cautiously. Oh god everybody fights I said. If we all got along, all the time life would be boring and how would we know what’s ticking each other off? Were would the make up stuff be?
It all comes down to what your fighting over and how you fight that determines how ‘good’ you are. We are good. More than good; even when he is a jack ass and I’m a silly girl. They say happy couples will fight over 300 times a year..I would like to find the couple that counted their arguments and know if they really are together because if an argument is worth counting then you are in trouble but its true ‘good’ couples fight. We are fighting over stuff. Unimportant stuff and our fights well they have more entertainment value than anything else. There is a difference. A bit more relations and we would be better but you know we will in the mean time sort the frustrations out with me calling him an ass who resembles his mother and I am the annoying wife with an inability to do as she is told because the last time I looked I didn’t have oil rig lackey written on my forehead.
You get it? Come the end of the day he will smile. I will smile. We will do this shy dance that nerds do when passing each other in the computer lab and we will know doubt do it all again several times over until he sails for Sri Lanka in four weeks time. Some months are good other months there is a lot of dancing.
So with another month to go there is I think going to be a lot of dancing between now and then but then its all fun and games in love and war.
xx Deb
