Okay so while I was swanning around Sydney enjoying the art galleries, the amazing shopping, sipping fantastic coffee, the amazing weather and avoiding the odd riot I forgot it was a FIFO wife’s birthday first birthday on the 16th of September. We I turned one. I cant believe it, typically I’m muttering to myself where does the time go?
This past year has been amazing fun and I have had such the honour of getting to know some of you through your comments and emails that I feel so blessed. I count each one as new friends and I’m so happy.
I have learnt so much about myself, the world and this thing called the inter net its been an amazing ride. Some good some bad but I wouldn’t change a thing not a thing.
Starting a FIFO wife was started through the desire to show that this FIFO life is one that lived with the right attitude can be amazing, just like life itself. I still stand by what I say that yes its hard and yes occasionally I have the odd melt down what mum wife or parent doesn’t but those weeks and days that my husband spends solely with us are something I wouldn’t trade for the world. Its worth it. It has allowed me to be a stay at home mum, have a sensational relationship with my husband, provide us with financial security beyond my wildest dreams for my boys, it has made my family what it is today beautifully close and strong and quite simply given us a life not possible if we were to just work the life of a regular Joe.
Life is truly about choices. You can choose to sit and wallow that FIFO has given you depression, that your over weight (ah guilty..damn you caramelised pork belly) that your kids are out of control that’s your choice but it wont get you any where or you can choose to make the best of every day, choose to make the best of what you have, to make those negative thoughts in your head positive you have control over all of those things. Its your choice to see the good in all the world has to offer, see the lessons learnt in that really big stuff up you made and keep going. Nothing in life that’s worth while is ever easy and if it was would it really be that interesting?
We (us..you know because without you..there is no a fifo wife..is just me and some mundane ramblings) have lots planned for the coming year and I cant wait. I cant wait to get to know more of you, its all just a wee bit exciting.
So happy birthday a FIFO wife..here’s to many more.
All my love to you.
And thank you.
x Debbie~ a FIFO wife.
Fantastic way to look at it Kelly! I love your last sentence..hold your nose take a deep breath and leap into the deep end..love it..xx Deb
Happy first birthday!
This past several weeks have seen such a shift in my mindset of becoming a fifo wife. Firstly my husband talking about the possibility that he may even apply for this said job, secondly him getting an interview/accepted all in a matter of 3 days was quite a whirl wind. I was so excited for him, then I was so scared and had that horrible lump in the throat feeling everytime I thought about him being away from myself and our boys. In the past few weeks I’ve thought a million thoughts.some good, some great, some sad, some thinking what if? what if something happened to my husband while he is away and I can’t be with him, what if he met someone? yes i actually went THERE! I guess I had been feeling a little nervous and unsure as to what to expect from all of this. I sat up extremly late (resulting in 8yr old being late for the school the following day) thinking, thinking, thinking. – I love this post all about making choices and choosing how to deal with our own situations. I’m feeling so much more at ease about all of this, I know I too will have low days where I want my husband home, but for the most part I know the boys and I will be fine, we will make this work and we will all make the best of it, in turn this will open up a whole new lot of possibilities for our family. I’m going to make sure our “fun times” don’t stop just because daddy is away, I will accept invitations and go to them alone with 2 children in tow if need be. I’ll probably allow my big wimpy dogs to come up to bed with me to protect me on those nights when I’m feeling like a scaredy cat. But above all else I’m going to embrace our new life and enjoy this wonderful adventure. Thankyou for all of your wonderful posts, it’s so comforting knowing this can be done with a smile on your face and a melt down or two & most of all it doesn’t matter what anyone elses negative opinion about this lifestyle is, this is our journey and I’m going to hold my nose, take a deep breath & leap into the deep end. Kinda’ exciting I think 😉