the fifo wife {the fifo life : do you miss him}

I have a friend whose partner has just started dido (drive in drive out) and she is terrified that its not going to work. That she will miss him and that they will have two separate lives that will eventually spilt them. This was my advice to her.

People ask me all the time do you miss him? Oh gosh yes aaand NO. Now I know that this is going to sound horrible. I love my husband. He is perfect.He is funny, supportive, I LOVE everything about him, he seriously my best friend but some days I don’t miss him. I don’t mourn him and if I’m honest I don’t miss him until the going gets tough, sounds harsh but thats me.

When I was just me. Before I had my beautiful babies. He worked fifo and before that he was in the navy. We have always done this. I didn’t miss him too much then either if at all. I did however know he was the one and that this was how our life would be. I was young and ambitious. When he was away I concentrated on what was important to me, I knew eventually I would play second fiddle somewhere in this relationship along the way. Its how it is for women ultimately like it or not we eventually have to put ourselves last for a period of time. So I study and worked and I gave that 100% of my time. I achieved everything I wanted because he wasn’t there to distract meonly encourage me beyond belief. I fulfilled everything I wanted careera wise so when  when the time came to have babies I was satisfied. While he was away I got to hang out with my friends and when he came home I was his all his. He caught up with his friends and family but ultimately he wanted to be with me.

We did and didn’t have two separate lives its inevitable but that can happen in civilian life too people are different at work I know that I am but because we spoke everyday on the phone and wrote letters; email wasn’t big then, the divied wasnt so big. We where honest and committed, we still are. That’s all you have to be, that and communication thats if you want it to work. Besides I think its healthy to have a life of your own. Being a little selfish can be a good thing.

So how is it now? Pretty much the same its just that my job is different. I’m a mum and I have taken on that as seriously as I took my job. I run my household as a business and I consider my husband not only as my best friend, lover but also as my business partner. Strange but thats how it works for us.

I know that we work; even though I dont miss him because I get those butterflies still the night before he gets home and when he walks in the room unexpected I still get that bolt of lightening if perhaps your not excited to see each other then well this relationship may or he may not be for you. FIFO or not.

If Im honest we dont have much in commen he has so much energy it drives me nuts, he loves movies, loves a bit of drama, he loves to jibber jabbe,r Im the complete opposite so we have very little with the exception of our morals and the fact that I LOVE him like a crazy woman. So when he would and even now when he goes back to work its sometimes a sigh of relief and I can be sure some months its like that for him.

Then he comes back and we would we do always have something to talk about.

xxD

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